10 things to tell yourself when you’re going through a hard time.

From Tiny Buddha (I love this site). Every point hit home for me. But oddly enough, number two stood out because at first glance, it sounded kind of selfish. You…

My interview on Mother Plus Podcast

Ambivalence in motherhood. Part 1: When you're a "different" kind of mom What happens when you feel like a "different kind of mom?" Despite feeling grateful to be at home…

Dealing with negative emotions
I love, I hate. Peace after accepting ambivalence.

All mothers know this.  That the love we have for our child is so intense and all-consuming that it's spectacular and terrifying in its power.  Yet it's rare we admit…

Condolences that hurt

I just listened to Marc Maron’s WTF podcast where he interviewed Nicole Byer (both are comedians, actors, podcasters). Marc asked Nicole when her parents passed away. Both were in their mid-50’s. Like…

What my sociopath boss taught me at 22

Signs of a sociopath When I was 22, a year after working my first after-college job as a market research analyst, I moved to live with my serious boyfriend. For…

vaccine passport
Orlando Sentinel guest column: Vaccine-passport debate shows middle-ground thinking is dead.

Vaccine passport Orginally published by the Orlando Sentinel - Guest columnist My daughter recently attended a Harry Styles concert at the Amway Center in Orlando. As required by the venue…

bed alarm
“Bed alarm” – a poem in my father’s voice

Published on the Feminine Collective I don’t tremble, but they assume I’m Katherine Hepburn’s kind.We share our Parkinson’s frozen mask, expressionless, involuntarydeceit of emotion. My shuffling gait halts while I…

setting boundaries
Are you sacrificing the peace within you to keep the peace around you?

Over the years I’ve noticed that my threshold for dealing with drama is remarkably low. Not that sort of “oh I’m getting older and less patient” low. I mean that…

Parenting through a pademic
A mother’s need for control in a pandemic

It struck me recently that my daughter is handling the uncertainty of the pandemic much better than I am. She accepts not knowing exactly when the world might return to…

Let's stop talking about Trump
It’s time to stop talking about Trump

Underneath our seeping political wounds over the past 5 years is an unsettled feeling no one on either side knows how to fix. Because we can't. Ever. I'm an optimist…