Shoulders back. Head up. Carry yourself with the spectacular you are. The world will treat you as you expect to be treated. You are mighty and deserving.
Remember that humility is not the opposite of confidence. Humility is to ask, to listen, to learn and to grow.
Remember to apologize. Do this. You must.
Remember to forgive yourself and them. This is very hard. Be patient.
Remember that you’re no one’s fool or doormat or plaything. It is better to be disliked than to dislike yourself.
Remember that true friendship must begin with trust, the rest is gravy.
Remember to speak your truth. Some will hate you for this. Do it anyway.
Remember that beauty is by chance, that character is painstaking and earned. Do not compromise on character, ever.
Remember that your body is a gift to nurture and to share as you decide. Do not compromise your body, ever.
Remember to be safe and smart in your choices. One mindless decision can alter your entire life.
Remember to create your image on your terms, not his, or hers, or theirs. The media must not define you. You must define you.
Remember that joy is the point of life, it really is. Let no one convince you this is selfish. Joy without harm, is the point.
Remember how much you are loved. It is big. It is wide. It is forever.
Remember that hostile mean hard people are sometimes in pain. I forget this, often.
Remember that kindness is the most important “thing” you can give another human being.
Remember to be open to the “other.” Celebrate diversity because doing this I promise, will make your life feel more compassionate, connected and alive.
Remember to travel to “strange lands,” to eat “strange” foods and to delight in other cultures.
Remember to ask life’s big questions and then to sit comfortably in the not knowing.
Remember that science and faith are never at war. One fills the gap where the other simply cannot. And when you think about it, isn’t that wonderful?
Remember to have faith in the unseen and in the possibilities.
Remember that all men and women are created equal. You are not special. But indeed, you are.
Remember that wonder is life’s greatest free entertainment. Wonder never needs a screen or to re-charge its battery.
Remember to forge your own path. It is yours, and it will be surprising and glorious.
Remember to live your life with unquenchable curiosity. Be giddy. Be ridiculous. Be a wise-ass around the ones you trust, around the ones who understand your family’s twisted humor.
Remember to be courageous and to pick-yourself-up again, and again, and again.
Remember when you fall, and you will fall, to ask for help. The strong ask.
Remember to ask God, anything.
Remember that your version of God is yours to decide.
Remember that the good in your life will return, because good always returns.
Remember that the Golden Rule is perfect. It is divine. It is the way.
Remember to be a voice for the voiceless, for there are millions in our world who need yours.
Remember to laugh and to laugh and to laugh and to laugh. And then to laugh again.
Remember that when you need to cry, do it. Do it unashamed. Do it big. Sometimes our weeping puddles become our only relief.
Remember to be grateful. Gratitude will give you strength and healing. Gratitude for merely the soft warm wind against your tears is sometimes your only, and I mean only, comfort.
Remember that although I don’t always say this, or feel this, or remember this:
That most people are good.
That life is good.
Default to that. Live that. Feel that. Convey that.
This will lift you. I promise it will. And then my sweet girl, you will soar.
Oh wow, Laura, that is truly a stirring, loving message to your dear Tara as she launches into life after high school. You covered so much and did it with such grace and wit. Anybody would benefit from reading this. Thanks so much for sharing.
Laura G Owens
Thanks so much, Karen 🙂 So very kind of you to say ….
I just now saw this pinned on a Pinterest board. 🙂
Laura G Owens
Oh that’s nice to hear! Thanks for letting me know 🙂