Can’t WAIT to read this book!
“Here’s a thought: it is truly difficult to have a conversation without really listening to the person we are talking to. Not only do we no longer listen but, we thanks to a new technological innovations, we don’t have to. Instead we enjoy making our points so much that we only listen long enough to poke holes in other people’s arguments. But that’s not truly hearing them. Honest listening is rally the lost art. So let’s talk. And listen..”
Take a look at the chapter titles below.
Cover your reading ears because you might cringe, which is to say you’ll either be turned off or too intrigued to look away.
Obviously the chapter titles are designed to provoke but there’s meat behind the topics we avoid at dinner parties (Personally I love talking religion. Not what you “should” believe but “What do you believe (or not).”
The chapter “Let’s pray for sexually active daughters” isn’t about asking Jesus to make our girls promiscuous (I briefly heard Cora during an interview about this chapter.
Cora wants girls to experience sex as pleasurable. She’s not worried if her daughter will have sex, she’s worried her daughter will like sex. We assume men like sex. Men say they like sex without apologizing or snickering and we all nod. Yep, that’s a man. Thinks with his crotch. If a woman admits she likes sex without apologizing or snickering she’s a shameful harlot (and a unicorn).
But if women put all their sex eggs in the marriage basket they might be disappointed. Sex for the first time on their honeymoon and ever after might mean women (and men) married their best friend who suddenly in the sack feels like their beloved sibling not lover. Raw deal.
I’m not saying couples get their numbers up before nuptials. But saving sex for marriage is a problem if they find out the chemistry was never there. Couples can work through a whole bunch of baggage and behavior issues but chemistry is chemistry. Primal visceral stuff. Either it’s there — or it’s not.
So check out this book.
Two authors. One a journalist (Cora) one an anthropologist (John). Good stuff.
Chapter 1 Sex:
Cora: Let’s pray for sexually active daughters
John: There’s a conspiracy to hypermasculinize black boys.
Chapter 2 Money:
Cora: We’re not moving on up
John: Watching TV is better than listening to jazz
Chapter 3 Religion
John: Is Twitter the new religion (Laura: Oh God I hope not)
Cora: Can a nation still have faith if it has lost its hope?
John: Are black people still overchurched?
Chapter 4 Politics
John: I could be a Republican
Cora: It’s time to rethink the American Dream
John: Obama makes whites whiter
Cora: I don’t care about first black presidents
Cora: It actually is Mama’s fault (Laura: WTF? Better read this one with wine)
Chapter 5 Race
John: We’re all haters
Cora: One box rule
Cora: Color wars!
John: All my best friends are light-skinned women
Cora: F* the N-word-bring back the word “nigger” (Laura: just to write that hurt).(Cora is black,btw).
John: Nigger, please (Laura: Again, ouch).
John: Is half as good better than nothing?
Cora: Mediocrity Nation?
John: No more Soujourners